Long-distance relationships are basically built on three things: trust, communication… and a really strong Wi-Fi signal.
Because when you can’t be in the same room, you start missing the little stuff, casual touch, playful flirting, that “I’m thinking about you” energy. The good news? Long-distance intimacy doesn’t have to be limited to texting “miss you” and hoping the timing works out. App-controlled sex toys can help you stay connected in a way that feels fun, flirty, and surprisingly emotional.
This guide breaks down how they work, how to use them without awkwardness, and the best app-enabled toys to try together.
Why sex toys are a game-changer for long distance
They make “quality time” feel more real
Phone calls are great. Video dates are great. But touch is its own love language. App-controlled toys add a physical layer to your connection.. something you can feel even when you’re miles apart.
They take pressure off “performing”
Not every long-distance moment needs to be a full-on production. Sometimes it’s quick, sweet, and playful. Sometimes it’s a slow build. Toys give you more options, and less pressure.
They keep desire alive between visits
When you’re apart, it’s easy to fall into “life mode” and forget to flirt. Scheduled play sessions (or surprise moments) can keep that spark warm instead of letting it go cold until the next trip.
App-controlled toys: how it works (in real life)
Most app-enabled toys connect to your phone via Bluetooth, and then your partner can control patterns and intensity from anywhere (as long as both of you are connected). Many apps also let you:
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Save favorite patterns
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Create custom rhythms
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Sync to music
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Control with voice or interactive features (varies by toy/app)
Want to browse more options? Here’s our app-enabled collection!
How to bring it up without making it weird
If you’re both already flirty, you can keep it simple:
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“Okay… I found something that might make long distance way more fun.”
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“Want to try a toy we can control from our phones?”
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“Pick one for me, and I’ll pick one for you.”
If one of you is shy, frame it like a connection tool, not a performance:
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“I miss you. I’d love something that makes us feel closer when we can’t be together.”
5 app-controlled toys that are perfect for long-distance play
1) Lovense Lapis (Vibrating Strapless Strap-On) – for shared pleasure vibes
This one is made for couples play, with a design that’s all about closeness and control, especially when you want something that feels more “together,” even from far away.
Why it works for long distance
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App control makes it interactive and playful
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Great for couples who like experimenting together
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A strong option when you want “date night energy,” but remote
2) Lovense Solace Pro (Thrusting Masturbator) – for hands-free intensity
If you’re looking for a toy that feels like a real upgrade from “just using your hand,” this one brings movement + app control into the mix.
Why it works for long distance
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Partner control adds that “you’re here with me” feeling
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Great for planned sessions (or surprise control moments)
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App features keep things varied and customizable
3) Lovense Mission 2 (Touch-Sensitive Tech) – for playful, interactive connection
This is an amazing choice when you want something that feels responsive and interactive, perfect for couples who like teasing, flirting, and building anticipation.
Why it works for long distance
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Touch-sensitive features make it feel more “alive”
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App control = long-distance-friendly
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Great for playful power-dynamic vibes (light, fun, consensual)
- Can be synced with Lovense Solace Pro and other toys for partner pleasure
4) Oly 2 (Pressure-Sensing Wearable Clit + G-Spot Vibrator) – for “wear it and let them take over”
Wearables are elite for long-distance because they’re discreet and feel very “connected.” The Oly 2 is designed for blended stimulation and has pressure-sensing features that make the experience more interactive.
Why it works for long distance
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Wearable design = hands-free fun
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Great for teasing sessions over video/voice
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A solid pick for couples who want something playful and practical
5) Lovense Spinel – for muscle relief + spicy possibilities
Yes, it looks like a massage gun, but it’s also one of those toys that can make long-distance flirting very, very interesting when you both know exactly what it’s being used for. 😉
Shop The Lovense Spinel!
Why it works for long distance
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App control makes it interactive
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Fun for couples who love versatility
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A spicy “multi-use” option that still feels like a legit wellness buy
Long-distance play ideas (that don’t feel like a script)
The “You pick the vibe” date
Hop on a call, set a 10-minute timer, and let your partner choose:
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Intensity level
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Pattern type
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When it stops
The surprise control
Give your partner permission for a short window like:
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“Anytime between 8–9pm your time, you’re in charge.”
The synced playlist
Pick 3 songs you both love, and switch control each song. It’s cute. It’s romantic. It can also escalate fast (in the best way).
The countdown to your next visit
Use the toy once a week and add a rule like:
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“Every session, we share one thing we can’t wait to do when we’re together.”
(It’s intimacy + anticipation. Dangerous combo.)
Tips for actually enjoying it (not troubleshooting it)
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Charge everything before you start (seriously).
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Test the connection once, earlier in the day.
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Use lube for comfort and smoother sensation.
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Set boundaries: who controls, for how long, and what’s off-limits.
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Laugh if it gets awkward. Awkward is allowed. You’re human.
The bottom line
Long distance is hard, but intimacy doesn’t have to be. App-controlled toys can turn “I miss you” into something you can actually feel, and give you a playful way to stay connected between visits.